It’s a loose question in that it is so broad you could answer, everyone holds a grudge! And yet when asked the question ‘Do you hold any grudges’ the majority of people will say they forgive and forget. Little white lie or do more people than not evaporate misgivings. If holding a grudge is anything it has to be something that you felt was dealt to you as an injustice!
The severity of the grudge being held will often be attributed to any actions taken by the holder. And there it lies! Only after the action taken by someone harbouring a grduge can we termine the cause of the action being attributed to the grudge.
How long were they holding it? Why did they hold it. It could be for all manner of reasons but geneally there are just a few things at the core of a grudge. Emotion and Pride! Loss of something material, being tricked or decieved resulting in the loss of something. Or realising that there was never something there in the first place (love!). Relationships are complicated and despite knowing we are all responsible for our own actions the simplicity of life is replaced with drama and complications (some would say unnecessarily so!). Who wakes up in the morning after a good night sleep and plots their own downfall?
Who holds grudges is such a loaded question without defining and at the least giving types of grudges a rating! But are they a grudge unless you take action, display a behaviour related and associated directly to the why.
A throw away comment – he’s holding a grudge! But why ? he was jilted by her! She resents her, why ? its a long story but she still holds a grudge against her ex. Relationships! Are grudges exclusive to a relationship?
